I make my own luck- take action and risk

ImageYes some people are born lucky but no me I was not born as such; I believe luck mostly favours those who work harder.
Tomas Jefferson, a famous former American president once said:” I find that the harder I work the more luck I seem to have.
Luck requires lots of effort and luck people are positive people just like me. They take risks their lives included and the bigger the risk, the bigger the reward. Luck people don’t give up or give in. We tell our inner critic to shut up and get on with the task at hand. We luck people face our fears and obstacle, we always expect miracles and get them.
We go out there and attract good vibe and also brave, we know what luck means; living with corrupt knowledge.

I meet people for a particular reason

People come into my life and I know right away that they are meant to be there. They are there to serve some sort of purpose, it might be to teach me a lesson, help me figure out who I’m or who I want to be. And you may never know who these people maybe, it maybe your roommate, a neighbor, a professor, a friend, a lover, or even a stranger.
But when I lock eyes with them, I know at that very moment that they will affect my life in a serious way. Sometimes things happen to me that may seem horrible, painful and unfair at first. However on reflection I find that without overcoming those obstacles I would never had realized my potential. I believe most things happen to test the limit of my soul and without these small tests; life would be like a smooth, paved straight road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable but dull and pointless.
The people I meet in my life makes me who I’m, I learn from bad experiences and believe they are the most important ones. If someone loves me, I give back love back to them in whatever way I can.
I make everyday count and appreciate every moment; I take from those moments everything that I possibly can, for I may never experience it again. I tell myself I’m a great individual and believe in myself. If I don’t it should be surely hard for you to believe me.
I create my own life and then go out there and live it with no regrets, I learn a lesson about life each day and enjoy every moment because I’m great and will be even greater in few coming years.

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Many African men are Boko- Haram, Lobola first, then babies

ImageIt is embarrassing to see how people have turned God’s plan of marriage into something to joke about, No wonder marriages these days has became as fragile as glass.

When families break up there is lot of drama, and the ones who suffer most are the poor innocent kids.

Black people have bypassed marriage by having kids out of the wedlock, to some extent women are to blame as they are the ones who can stand their ground and insist on doing the things the right way before failing pregnant.

Some couples who have children born out of the wedlock even have the guts to brag about their babies as if everything was normal. In our African tradition it is taboo to give the name from the father’s ancestral line if he did not pay lobola. This trend is growing fast; it seems as if our African celebrities especially enjoy being single parents. And our young people look up to these tradition limping individuals as their role models.

As a true African who follows and respects his tradition, I argue every black person to do the right thing and lead a life worthy of following. Furthermore don’t forget that no vows had been exchanged between the two of you. For you to carry his child doesn’t mean anything to because he was not in the father mentality when he proposed you.

He just wants to enjoy you irresponsibly without thinking of the outcome and without everyone acting responsibly and with respect it’s not too late to correct this tradition decay.

Ladies please be strict and lay down your rules and stand by them. Then our children will benefit by having parents who love and take care of them.

If you don’t pay lobola then you are also just like the Boko- Harams

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Success isn’t never failing but raising every time you fall

ImageThey say when one door closes another one opens, I’m really grateful to all the people who had been over the years there for me, the people who had keep me intact and going when I should have had exploded, to those who know me are aware my life journey hasn’t been an easy one. I have tried my best to pay back show appreciation to those who had sacrificed their time and resources on me until to this day. But sometimes in life we need to accept that at times things are not meant for us, we at times try to be what we were not meant to be.

Those of you who follow my life know how brilliant a person I’m , I have all the qualities to be ideal leader in my community, I’m a responsible human being despite all I have achieved the people some of whom respected public figures not even one day I had been dragged into a nasty scandal, not even one day I had been angry at someone no matter how they sin me. I have done my party in moving my community forward encouraging other young people to be positive in life even when the going is tough, with every step taken the gap is being closed. Today I sat down and look back and wish I could have done more but still looking back at the age I was when I was doing whatever I did to other young people in my community my eyes are filled with tears of pride.

For me life is all about having that positive energy believing in the impossible, listening less to doubters and following your instincts and what you believe it can be accomplished because not all of can climb mount Everest, If Simon can’t climb Everest and you feel you can he must feel because he has failed to so you will but if you listen to him not your instincts you will be a static of a failures as well.
As days get closer to my 22 birthday I sometimes realize how an extraordinary person had been and still I’m today it will be understatement not to mention that I’m a very different person from most of age -mates , I dream under conditions were I should not have had at the same place and fulfilled those dreams in very small space of time, to dream is free but to walk and accomplish the dream is never easy it takes being a man.
I have over the years adopted a lifestyle where by I believe facing difficulties in life comes with a very handsome reward, facing difficulties in my life I can today say It had been a blessing in disguise , it’s something that motivates me . This month I will be turning 22 and a grown up man isn’t so? And a grown up man doesn’t wait for other people be relatives or friends to find solutions to his problems, at this age a real man doesn’t really like people interfering into his own life. At 22 it’s when you stop listening to people making noises about what best for you and make a decision and move that direction, it doesn’t matter what you choose as long you know its best and it will work for you. I personally think time have came for me to go it my way in this life without anyone suggesting what to do with my life. I have learned over the years that people when you are smart enough they will always try influence you do what they think is best but you don’t see as such and thus we end up making mistakes by wanting to impress and do something which we would not have gotten ourselves into in the first place. It must be noted that people sometimes get involved in our lives with good and bad agendas, we have seen over and over that people use others to achieve their goals, it’s therefore a matter of being careful.
People have different talents and at times God chooses for us who he wants us to be and we can not go against that because when we do thus when things don’t work out for us, I have personally always wondered to why I can move a mountain in plan B and never really proceed in plan A when I try force things on plan A they work for a certain period of time before something very serious comes up to halt that progress but when I’m at plan B all seem to be doing it for itself naturally with me putting 120% effort .
I know that God has a special plan for me to follow but had been ignoring because I had always wanted to accomplish what everyone wished was best for me, I tried follow that route and sadly it never really bear fruit because I was forcing things that were not meant for me I wanted to be someone who I’m not meant to be .
Looking back at my accomplishments over the years only someone who pretend to know me would call me a failure and such people are those who talk to me when they hear something good had happened with me and place themselves in a situation advise me but I’m not foolish I take everyone’s advise and only a few doesn’t end up in the dust bin. I was born a success but had been ignoring the part of me that is really me, the path that would had seen me succeed with distinction. I have now found self and the really purpose I’m in this world , lots of us out there are doing things we should not be doing , lots of us don’t know our purpose in this world even if we do know we doubt ourselves and what a shame.
I’m not writing this because I’m regretting I have had a wonderful life already although I’m only 22 when I put down my life I could well half qualify to go and retire in a farm and look after my livestock, the knowledge and my experiences over the years no one can take that from me, I know life than when I could when I’m to be 55, I’m proud that I have played my part in life changing charitable causes and have inspired a number of young people from different walks of life that nothing is impossible in this life no matter your back ground, gender or race most importantly I played a positive part in society at an age when I would had done lots negative things that affects society.
I’m happy in life today because I believe everything that had happened to me, my decisions over the years all they was purpose behind them and I never look back feeling sorry for myself or with any regret. Although I’m not where I wish to be in life but at-least have to appreciate the fact that I’m in the right direction and have the skill to climb any mountain in life. Besides I have more to be proud of than feel sorry for myself I accomplished whatever I did when odds were heavily against me and did it under the same situation many times and this year is no different I look forward to accomplish my life target under hash conditions and when I do the smile on my face is much bigger because there is no victory as sweet as when odds are heavily against you.
We as people are different some come from well off family, some from average families, others from very poor families therefore it might be easy for some difficult some to accomplish what would seem a easy dream, some dream and just walk the dream as strolling in the park while other have to work extremely hard for years just to accomplish the same. When you have no proper family support structure you dream under hash conditions and such matured and learned me that there is no easy dream that is easy or can be accomplished just like that one has to suffer to achieve anything in this life, if you homophobic to struggling then you have no life those who are prepared to make it in this life are prepared to suffer and take risks. The struggle is even much better for you when you someone or people who cheer and pick you up when you fall because as you grow up in life you appreciate that some people don’t have that privileged from the young age, when they were down they had to cheer themselves up, when they fell they had to pick themselves up
2014 is a year when I do what I think It’s best for me and my life, forget about what people think of me or what I should be or become, I know my capabilities and my plan B’s in life . We tend to make mistakes by thinking that what everyone expect us to be it’s really what we are meant to be in this life. No success is everywhere, but when we try force things we may sure believe success is monopolized somehow and only those who have the right qualifications are guaranteed success in life.
Many of us wonder how some people seem to succeed beyond imagination so effortlessly and painless to most of us, they don’t try force things, they do things according to what is God given to them, they choose the direction for themselves that is already paved rather than a rough one they must negotiate slowly but painfully.
We can deny this but it’s the truth, all of us were born to excel effortlessly in a certain field of work, some people are born business minded and we watch them succeed effortlessly in that, while others try to copy-cat such person and fail dismally. Everyone has his or her talent and it’s very important to know what you are best at and if you do what you are best at even if it doesn’t pay you good for now but promise you will live a very happy life and in the near future be very wealth, the example is a Somali man selling different kind of stuff he can make a R20 profit a day for months but come after a year he will be making R 7000 a day from the same thing, he can’t give up because he knows selling it’s where his talent is and come after five years he will be a millionaire then thus when some of us who doesn’t understand honoring your God given talent will start saying no, one can succeed from selling sweets he was selling drugs, WHAT DRUGS just in your mind because you are foolish.

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My Cape Town holidays visit in pictures

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What interests me about this life is that those who have met will meet again it can be years, it can happen and  when does happen it is  such an interesting time when you all reflect back were you then in your lives and where you are today, Life is always about dreaming big and walking the talk and having direction in sort of a fixed campus to direct you were you wanna be, there is no easy journey in this life but with hope and sacrifice mountains can be moved. People will tell you this and that can’t achieved by an underdog like you but listen not to them but your inner voice and how you are feeling of what you are planing for the year, whatever it can be don’t look back remember to achieve anything you have to take the first step and expect to suffer. Its better to suffer from the beginning and have a happy ending

Good luck for 2014 it will be a busy year for me so me  I will  write but not as much as I would love but because  I know some of you like to keep up to date with my ideas and what up to will now and then, I’m sure some of you know already I’m embarking on two very big projects.

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Life is about believing so I do

 

191762_10150455973650107_2319820_oMaturity is many things it is the ability to base your judgement on the big picture and realise that life is a long haul. Maturity means being able to resist the urge for immediate gratification and to opt for a cause of action that will pay off later.

Maturity is perseverance – the ability to sweat out a project or situation in spite of heavy opposition and discouraging setbacks and stick with it until the job is finished.

Maturity is the to control anger and settle differences without violence or destruction.  A mature person can face unpleasantness, frustration, discomfort and defeat without collapsing or complaining    , maturity is the ability to live up your responsibilities and this means being dependable.  Dependability is the hallmark of integrity.

Maturity is is the ability to make a decision and stand by it   , it’s the ability to harness your abilities and your energies and to do more than expected.  A mature person refuses to settle for mediocry . He would rather aim high and miss the mark that aim low : Maturity is the art of living in peace with what can’t be changed,  the courage to change what should be changed, no matter what it takes and the wisdom to know the difference, I believe success depends upon  maturity !!!

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Open Letter to Psychology Maziwisa

Dear Psychology

Psychology_MaziwisaAs a concerned follower Zimbabwean I decided to write you this letter, a piece of advice, I know that there lots of people out there including those in your own party (ZANU-PF) who would wish the same, advising you to be a mature enough political figure and stop embarrassing your party through your senseless outburst and confrontation with none ZANU-PF affiliated politicians on social media specifically President Morgan Tsvangirai but are too fearful to do so. I however decided to do you a favor  and get the message on how really most Zimbabweans think of you, people don’t like the way you go about talking of other political opponent on social media, They are quiet about it not that they respect you nor like it.

No one respects you Psychology all because of the way you conduct yourself as politician, you are your own worst enemy instead people can’t tell you because they fear you and the party you are associated to and that’s not how it should be when you are people’s politician. Judging by how many people who follow you on social media, those people expect positive uniting ideas and messages from you not deliberate insults and mocking of rival political figures in whatever comes out of your mouth and you write on social media, Yes we might argue that’s how politics is but I think as many Zimbabweans sometimes you go too far. The personal claims you make towards Tsvangirai on social media at times we tend to believe it’s not political but individual grudge you have against him which we don’t know, we would love you tell every Zimbabweans why you hate this man so much, It’s your right to have grudges with whoever you choose but with your position in Zimbabweans politics why make it so public and obvious? You may think you are causing Tsvangirai pain but NO you are actually damaging your own political image, you have shown us how shallow minded a politician you are, you want  gain merit from your superiors by insulting and invading other people’s privacy. It is not the right way to seek political promotion and limelight, political greatness should be achieved in a ethical manner and if you do so you will see all those people who follow you on social media won’t bother use ghost names.

When you started off we all looked up to you as young man with lots to Zimbabwean politics, we thought you will be the foundation of the new era of promoting modern politics in our country, whereby as politicians despite having different political views can sit together have a cup of coffee laugh, but you seem to have lost ground of who really you were and represented to Zimbabwean youth, and  now has followed the philosophy of the old-guards in your party who believe an opposition politician is an enemy not an opponent. We thought you were a smart guy Psychology but now most of us are realizing you are less than average politician who wants use iron-age strategies to earn a status in your party. Deliberately using other people’s private lives for political score is not something that most Zimbabweans appreciate. We might be politics but they should be where we draw the line as such, we know politics is dirty but these days it’s no longer the case, we are a new generation that should respect one another’s opinions not enemies who should kill each other for politics or insult one another’s families.

What do Zimbabweans in general benefit from me and you or whoever exchanging insults? Nothing other than wasting their time and resources.

I really hope you will view politics in a bit different way from currently what you does, If you still want to impress a few in your party that you are really committed to ZANU-PF, show it by working hard uniting Zimbabweans and promoting modern politics based on the principles of democracy and most importantly be the role-model for new generation of current and upcoming politicians of our generation that politics should be conducted and practiced in fair and democratic manner.

You might be ZANU-PF I might be MDC-99 or whatsoever but the baseline is we are firstly human-beings; secondly Zimbabweans and thirdly politicians, so you can’t rule out that you might tomorrow work hand in hand with an individual you are tarnishing the image of his family today for the good cause that might benefit Zimbabweans and how will you look each other in the eye?

You never know what life brings tomorrow; I have no doubt you know that very well considering you are today working with the party you so much hated.

Wishing you all the best in your political career

 

With respect

Ephraim Ntlamo

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Support The Monkey and The Elephant campaign

The MMWhen I was a young boy growing up in the village in Zimbabwe, I never imagined that I will one day find myself in the shelter or foster care facility but this became reality for me when I hopelessly left my country of origin and found myself homeless in South Africa.

I might have been homeless but still had big dreams to achieve. I was taken care of, loved in my new surrounding, my life normalized to that of any other kid, I attended school my confidence grew that I was capable of achieving my goals just like any other child. And fared well in everything I put mind to, my mind was clear of obstacles as the burden of having to deal with the problems on my own was lifted off my shoulders for the time being, until when I turned eighteen and ineligible to remain at the place that had afforded me refugee and hope and here I was on my own again.

ephraim-2 The most difficult part I can say is when you are on your own again thus when you found yourself to be where you were before you came into foster care but this time as an adult, at this stage there is lots of pressure of having to balance your life, achieving the goals you have set for yourself and come up ways support your well-being to avoid homelessness again in an environment were opportunities for such people as us are so limited. And this is the period most can’t handle the pressure and accept that they were born to be homeless, no one was born to be homeless the lack of opportunities for us when we turn eighteen is the main cause that lead us back to homelessness and despair.

Most of my pals I lived with in the shelter are today back on the street not because there are failures but believe the system failed them in a way that when someone turns eighteen is expected to look after himself or herself no matter at what stage of achieving their goal in life. We people from foster cares face lots of challenges after we have reached the age to leave the foster care homes. We have to find quick solutions to multiple problems leading to one abandon one or the other of their goals in life however without systematic structures to give support most of us find it difficult to find direction in life.

The work done by the Monkey and the elephant is very important to giving those out of foster care a purpose in life and the opportunity to learn a skill and feeling not alone in the new world of having to look after yourself and the challenges faced after post foster care life. We are brilliant people who if managed and offered an opportunity off the foster care facility can achieve the best in our lives I therefore argue all of you to contribute to this project so as to give renewed hope and purpose to be productive positive citizens of our communities. Without the support I got after I turned eighteen and left the foster care facility I would not have achieved what I have done so far, I would not be the productive member of my community I’m today, I would not be the leader I’m today, I would not be the hope I’m to others who are in my situation today, as I was few years ago.

With your support for The Monkey/ The Elephant project we can achieve together the end to this tendency were promising talents end up in  miserable situation of homelessness and directionless in life after they are out of  foster care facilities.

 

To support this initiative click on the link below

https://rally.org/themonkeytheelephant#

 

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